Benching: Keeping a Potential Partner as a Backup

Benching: Keeping a Potential Partner as a Backup

Benching: Keeping a Potential Partner as a Backup

Dating these days can feel a lot like juggling, one person catches your interest, but you’re not entirely sure if they’re the one, so you keep them around while testing the waters elsewhere. This is called “benching”.

Benching is just like keeping a potential partner as a backup while exploring others. Well, I can’t really say this is a good practice considering the emotions and feelings that goes with being attached to someone we cherish.

Imagine that you’re talking to someone you like, but instead of committing fully, you text them sporadically, just enough to keep their interest alive. That’s benching in a nutshell. It keeps the other person on standby while you figure out if someone else out there might be a better match.

What makes benching so prevalent today? Honestly, it’s a product of how dating apps and social media have shifted our mindset. There’s this endless buffet of options, and you’re told to “keep your options open.”

But here’s the thing, most people who are being benched know it deep down. They might feel like the connection is one-sided or that their effort isn’t being matched yet, some stick around hoping the “player” will finally make them the star of the game. That’s hope, and it is addictive.

I’d be lying if I said we haven’t all kept someone on the back burner, even unintentionally. The problem arises when it goes on too long, turning what could’ve been a healthy connection into a drawn-out guessing game.

The thing about benching is that it often leaves people feeling undervalued. As tempting as it is to keep options open, being honest about your intentions, your interest, or even your lack of commitment builds way more trust. Even if the relationship doesn’t work out, you both walk away with clarity instead of resentment.

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If you’re tempted to bench someone, ask yourself, are you genuinely unsure about them, or are you just afraid to let them go? And if you think you’re the one on the bench, you should know that the best connections don’t leave you waiting. The right person will make you their priority, not their plan B.

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